Friday, 8 May 2015

THE EXTRA-MARITAL SEX CONTRACT





ISBN-10: 0-8402-1307-7
Writers: Jay Ziskin and Mae Ziskin
Title: The Extra-Marital Sex Contract
Printing: Second Printing
Language: English
Place of Publication: Los Angeles, CA
Publisher: Nash Publishing Corporation
Year of Publication: 1973
Format: 142x222mm
Pages: xiv+257; bibliography, 255
Illustrations: 1 single colour picture of the writers on back flap by Willard
Binding: light blue boards in duotone dust jacket designed by Ron Rubenstein
Weight: 464gr.
Original Price: N/A (clipped)
Entry No: 2015017
Entry Date: 8th May 2015


BOOK DESCRIPTION

Is marriage become obsolete?  The authors, who describe their own marriage as “durable, loving and exciting,” are strong believers in the institution of marriage, but they also believe that marriage as it is today will become obsolete unless an alternative is found to sexual exclusivity. This is the first book addressed to an evaluation of the possibilities for reducing one of the negatives of marriage – the problem of obtaining sufficient sexual satisfaction in marriage while sustaining and even enhancing the relationship itself.

Even in the happiest marriages, say the Ziskins, there eventually comes a time when the romance and “spice” dwindle, when a couple falls into a “rut.” Sex is the area in which dissatisfaction and frustration are most likely to be felt – often resulting in unnecessary conflicts and feelings of guilt – and a basically good marriage may end in divorce.

Such a marriage can be saved! It can continue to grow with new vitality when the couple agrees to enter into an extramarital  sex contract It can and has been done; and the authors present  remarkably candid interviews, with couples who have successfully entered into agreements of this nature, as proof. Of the 124 couples they interviewed, an overwhelming majority have found that their marriages are not only more open and happier, but their sex life with one another has been enhanced.

The Ziskins go on to describe what they call the various “sex modes in new fidelity” – swinging, group sex, independent sex, partial living apart, and the durable affair – and they tell the pros and cons of each. They examine the moral, legal, and religious aspects involved, and provide answers for every other question that will be asked about the extramarital sex contract – how to  initiate a discussion of the idea, how to work out the timing and establish “limits” once an agreement is made;  what to do about children; how to handle friends, relatives, and neighbors; and , for those who feel the need, how to put the contract in writing!


Open challenges our notions of wath traditional marriage looks like, and presents one woman's journey down an uncertain path that ultimately proves that open marriage is a viable option - even one that suits some couples better than conventional marriage.


INTIMATE LIFE STYLES




ISBN-10: 0-87620-447-7
Editors: Joann S. and Jack R. DeLora
Title: Intimate Life Styles
Subtitle: Marriage and Its Alternatives
Printing: First Printing
Language: English
Place of Publication: Pacific Palisades, CA
Publisher: Goodyear Publishing Company, Inc.
Year of Publication: 1972
Format: 155x235mm
Pages: xv+421
Binding: blue boards in colour dust jacket designed by Diane MacDermott
Weight:705gr.
Original Price: N/A
Entry No: 2015016
Entry Date: 8th  May 2015


BOOK DESCRIPTION


This book analyzes traditional forms of courtship and marriage in the United States along with emerging patterns of interaction involving intimacy and sex.

The editors ascertain the reasons for these innovative life-styles and speculate as to the forms which sexual and erotic behavior will take in the future.

Traditionally, such emotion-oriented behavior supposedly occurred only within the context of marriage. Today lovers, friends and strangers are experimenting and re-defining the word love.

In place of sexual exclusiveness married couples are now “swinging”; others choose to “live-together” rather than to marry. In covering this broad spectrum of behavior Jack and Joann DeLora have gathered their material from scientific research journals as well as from the publications of the popular and underground press, plus women liberation, homosexual and singles organizations. The variety of the selected readings are illustrative of the important trends shaping our new intimate life-styles.


Monday, 4 May 2015

OPEN







ISBN-13: 978-1-58005-241-2
Writer: Jenny Block
Title: Open
Subtitle: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage
Language: English
Place of Publication: Berkeley, CA
Publisher: Seal Press
Year of Publication: 2008
Format: 156x235mm
Pages: x+276
Illustrations: 1 single colour picture of the writer by Scogin Mayo
Binding: boards in duotone dust jacket; photograph by Veer Images
Weight: 570gr.
Original Price: USD24.95
Entry No: 2015015
Entry Date: 4th  May 2015

BOOK DESCRIPTION

Jenny Block is your average girl next door, a suburban wife and mother for whom married life never felt quite right. While many books on the topic of open marriage presuppose that the reader is ready to embrace an “alternative lifestyle.” Block operates from the assumption that most couples who are curious about or engaged in open marriages are in fact more like her – normal people who question whether monogamy is right for them; good people who love their spouses but want variation; capable parents who are not deviant just because they choose to be honest about their desires.

Open challenges our notions of what traditional marriage looks like, and presents one woman's journey down an uncertain path that ultimately proves that open marriage is a viable option - even one that suits some couples better than conventional marriage.